I have a few books on the go right now, all located in different parts of the house.
Right now my “car book” is an amazing read and highly recommended!! A fast and easy read, written by Dr Ross Campbell, it’s called, “How to Really Love Your Child.” It’s an old book that my father-in-law gave it to me a few years ago and it has sat in my car the entire time. A couple months ago, I finally picked it up and started to read it. It didn’t take long for me to realize that I wish I started reading the book when he gave it to me several years ago.
The book teaches parents how to really love their child, in ways that are so simple but a lot of parents miss. He explains that parents genuinely love their children, unfortunately, they don’t know how to express it in a way that their children need. Or they may start loving their children according to his principles when the child is younger, but as the child grows, the parents believe those forms of expression are no longer relevant or appropriate for their age. Boys typically get caught in this trap as they grow older because parents don’t believe that teenage books need physical touch in the same way they do when they were younger. Teenage girls also get caught in this trap when their fathers no longer feel comfortable expressing their physical affection to their developing daughter.
I wish I read this book sooner and applied these 4 basic principles when Ella was younger…it would have helped me attach to her much more easily and would have spared me a lot of difficulty, pain and sadness. I also appreciate the clarity it brings on disciplining my children. Unconditional love is the foundation. When our children have their buckets full of love, they are easier to discipline.
Dr Ross Campbell’s 4 basic principles are:
– unconditional love
– eye contact
– physical touch
– focused attention
I know they are straight forward and a no brainer but they are also profound. Unfortunately, I don’t have the words to express the book’s intelligence and heart accurately. I wish I could be more convincing. However, I am grateful for the shift in my value system and the vision for my children’s teen and adult years. I have a renewed purpose and focus for my everyday life with my children.