I’ve been discovering the power of focus and mindfulness in my everyday life with my moods, parenting, goals, problems and so forth. When I find myself upset or fixating on the negative, I notice that I need to take a step back and look at what I’m choosing to focus on. I often realize my perception is off kilter and needs adjusting.
T Harv Eker, author and motivational speaker, says, “What you focus on expands.” When we zero in on a certain thought, memory, idea, problem or feeling, it continues to grow and manifest – often down a different path than where we want to go. This is the nature of thoughts. They start off in one direction and then as we follow it, we find ourselves in a completely different place than where we started.
With me, this is usually an unhealthy place of worry, chaos or anxiety. Fortunately, I’m starting to notice more frequently how I work myself into a tizzy with just my thoughts. I could avoid building a mountain out of a molehill by checking the accuracy of my thinking and focusing my thoughts on what is true. As Joyce Meyer says, “You can’t get confused if you stop analyzing.”
Consider a dime: it’s only 1.8 cm in diameter. However, if we hold it a short distance away from our eye, it looks enormous. Conversely, if we are mindful enough to catch ourselves in the moment, we can pull away the dime and look at it from a distance. We soon discover that I really isn’t that big after all. The same is true with our problems: we see that they really aren’t that big if we can step back long enough to gain a different perspective.
One of my favorite speakers, Tony Robbins, says, “Your life is controlled by what you focus on.” He talks extensively on how to change your emotional state by changing your focus. Our feelings tend to quickly follow suite to whatever we are thinking about. Notice the language you use or the things you meditate on. Saying, “Always” or “Everybody” will produce a more elevated reaction compared to saying more factual statements like “A few times” or “1 or 2 people.” By shifting your focus you can change the emotions that follow.
I challenge you to start noticing your thoughts. What are you focusing on? If you are feeling upset or stressed, notice what is ruminating around and around in your mind. As you continue to focus on these thoughts, you will generate more thoughts similar in nature. Remember: what you focus on expands. Dwelling on negativity will breed more negativity. However, filling your mind with life, truth and positivity will radiate through you and overflow into the lives of others.
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